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I don’t know if you noticed, but kids have a lot of energy. When they’re not running away or climbing something, they’ll ask questions or want to be entertained, which can be hard to deal with if you ever want to do other things too. But then there are the hyperactive children who bring a completely different level of “energetics” with them.

Although the reasons for hyperactivity vary, its effects on parents are not. It’s exhausting keeping up with a hyperactive child and keeping them from trying death defying stunts they might make up.

With my own hyperactive son, it is a challenge to exhaust him. He’s the boy who climbs the tallest structure in the playground, the boy who instantly runs into a crowd, and the boy who bounces and jumps while the rest of his playmates run. I’m now the disheveled mother who holds her third cup of coffee for the day and spends all of her time chasing after him for fear that he might need another visit to the emergency room.

If my son gets enough exercise, he’ll be a cute, happy kid. When he’s not, he’s restless, moody, and prone to acting out. It is important to give him some space for his energy, but all too often he exhausts me rather than the other way around.

What Causes Hyperactivity In Some Children?

It is important to provide hyperactive children with proper electrical outlets for their energy – but what are the best electrical outlets and how do you provide them without exhausting yourself? According to the website “Your children’s table“Written by Alisha Grogan, a licensed pediatric occupational therapist and mother of three boys, helping hyperactive children burn their energy requires a slightly different strategy than helping children who are not hyperactive.

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According to Grogan, hyperactivity is often related to sensory problemswhich leads to them constantly looking for new sensations. To help your hyperactive child, it is not enough just to let them run around until they are exhausted. Rather, it helps to be strategic in their activities to give them what they need.

Grogan’s advice for dealing with hyperactive children is to come up with activities that work one of three criteria, and vary your strategy according to your child’s needs at that moment. These solutions are:

Offer activities with rhythm and structure

Hyperactive children have a lot of energy, but that doesn’t mean they don’t crave structure, whether they realize it or not. Jumping up and down is great for burning energy; It’s even better to jump up and down to the rhythm of your favorite song.

For my son, he loves dance parties with dad, where the two of them bounce up and down while singing songs. During a dance party, his movement is a little more targeted, but his mood is much better.

Other possibilities are to play sports, to go for a walk, to climb a free-standing structure or a rock wall or set up an obstacle course. The movement helps burn the energy while the structure helps keep it a little more focused.

Offer free active time

Structured play is important, but sometimes you just need to give your child a little free rein to get all of this restlessness out of their system. This could be in the form of unstructured playtime in a park or playground, a wrestling match with dad, jumping up and down on the bed, or anything else that can help you get excess energy out of your system.

They’re kids, after all, which means that sometimes you just have to embrace the chaos. As long as no one gets hurt and nothing of value breaks, it’s okay to lean into this restless energy a little. Just make sure that you’ve finished your coffee and that the breakable items are secured.

Provide a relaxing environment to help with transitions

Most children struggle with transitionssuch as B. move from the active time to the quiet time. Hyperactive children seem to struggle a little more than most, which makes it all the more important to make a smooth transition from active time to rest or rest time.

If you have a hyperactive child who is showing signs of fatigue but just cannot relax, moving them to a relaxed environment is a good strategy. This can include dimming the lights, rocking back and forth, or playing soothing music. If you’re looking for a quiet time to organize their room can help, which can help them calm down. (And we, by the way.)

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I am constantly battling my hoarding tendencies, which is why I usually shrink from the genre of “10 Great Uses For Old Twist Ties” hacks – and yet I tell you to have an empty sugar bag handy, especially if you are a bit clumsy (or have awkward children, awkward pets, or an awkward significant other).

The proposal relates to health and safety and comes to us one of my beloved Twitter mutualscarrying around an empty sugar bag just to dispose of broken glass. (My Twitter friends seriously have the best hacks!)

As Sacha explains in her tweet, a thick, double-ply paper bag is a much safer place to store broken glass than a plastic bag. When I asked Sacha where she got the idea from and she told me it came from her own brilliant brain:

I thought of it myself! Coming from a family with hoarding tendencies + practicing the security mentality while working in a QC lab = the occasional household hack like this one.

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This is a brilliant use of something I would normally throw in the trash without hesitation. Broken glass is known to be very sharp-edged, and I always worry that they will poke through a garbage bag and cause a stupid injury or at least an annoying mess, be it for me or a plumbing worker. A thick, double-ply paper bag prevents such tragedies.

Having an empty bag with you just in case you break a glass may seem too cautious, but paper sugar bags don’t take up much space. If you have kids – or hyperactive pets – it’s always best to be prepared for glass breakage. (Though honestly I wasn’t a stranger even before I got my wild dog. I’m very clumsy.)

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TikTok wants to offer you more than simple pointless entertainment – now it wants to too help you find a job—By inviting users to submit video résumés for jobs from participating companies such as Chipotle or Target. The pilot program, called TikTok Resumes, is aimed at Generation Z job seekers looking for entry-level positions outside of college. Here’s what you need to know.

What are TikTok resumes?

TikTok eschews the familiar cover letter and résumé and encourages users to highlight their skills and work experience by posting a personal essay video on a public # TikTokResumes channel. You can also submit your video for jobs directly; a new job offers page features open positions for the NBA, Shopify, Forever 21, NASCAR, and the WWE (the submission form for these positions also allows you to provide a LinkedIn URL).

Employers will then review the videos and arrange interviews with applicants directly. For the time being, the pilot program will only apply to job vacancies in the US – through July 31st. The positions currently listed are mostly entry-level positions at retail chains, although there are also positions for applicants who have strong content creation and social media skills.

What is a video resume?

TikTok says that a video resume should and highlight your skills or experience “in a creative way.” You can find examples of good video résumés here. For more tips on making a great video and submitting it to the TikTok job board, please visit check out this video, also.

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Since these videos are on a public channel, TikTok recommends not including personal information such as an email address in your video – companies can contact you directly through the app.

Will video resumes be the new way to apply?

While well-produced video essays could help companies find content creation talent, it’s less clear why those skills are needed for an entry-level job at Target. In fact, it could be argued that a video format makes a candidate more prone to being fired early in the hiring process based on how he looks or acts in front of the camera, even if his experience qualifies him for the position.

Also, it’s not obvious why these videos need to be public other than generating free content for TikTok. Before video résumés can be widely accepted, these concerns should be addressed.

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Children who experience “parenting” are children who have to grow up too quickly because they are expected to take on the role of parenting of their siblings or their own parents. There are a number of reasons a child can be considered a parent – some are preventable, some are not; however, in either case, the effects of parentification are rapid and long-lasting.

When a parent dies, becomes disabled, or moves out, a child may feel like they have to step in to help their remaining parent. In other cases, parents may not have the necessary financial or other resources, forcing them to rely on an older child to care for their younger siblings. Parentification can also occur when a parent is mentally unstable, copes with addiction, or lacks the emotional ability to act in an appropriate parenting role.

The long-term effects of parentification

Whether intentional or unintentional, avoidable or not, parenting can be an extremely stressful situation for a child, with often long-lasting consequences.

“Parenthood is often a lack of boundaries within a family system,” says Christine Myers, a licensed marriage and family therapist at Thriveworks in Midlothian, Virginia.

A parent is often asked to take on tasks they are not prepared for, such as caring for a very small sibling or entrusting a parent with personal affairs.

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“The child is expected to do things that they may not be able to cognitively and are unprepared for, which can lead to feelings of failure, shame, or low self-esteem,” says Myers.

Parentified children can develop problems that persist into adulthood, such as anxiety, depression, low self-esteem, and the inability to develop healthy relationships of their own. For those who became parents as children, breaking this cycle can be very difficult as most of us learn about family relationships by observing our own. In other words, parenting can seem very normal to a child growing up in this environment.

“We tend to what we know,” says Myers.

Even if a person realizes that this parentification was not normal or healthy, they may still have difficulty understanding what healthy boundaries look like in a relationship and how they can be enforced. Therapy can be helpful in addressing some of the thoughts and behaviors you may have developed in order to cope with the stresses of parenting and establish healthy habits for the future.

What to expect from therapy

Dealing with the effects of parenting often means dealing with the dysfunctional beliefs and thought patterns associated with the experience. For example, many children with parenting feel acutely responsible for others, which is a habit that is difficult to unlearn. Therapy often aims to unpack these thoughts and behaviors in order to address and resolve them.

There are also some relationship habits that they need to unlearn, such as extreme independence or the urge to take care of others while neglecting their own needs.

“Children who have become parents often find a large part of their identity in a caring role as they age,” says Myers.

For an adult dealing with the effects of a parent, some of the therapies that can help may help:

Trauma-based cognitive behavioral therapy

That is a Type of therapy This helps patients to identify and address dysfunctional thought patterns and assumptions in order to help them understand their experiences as well as their self-image.

In the case of adults raised as parents as children, this may also mean addressing their belief that they are solely responsible for the well-being of others and their concerns about their inability to assume age-related responsibilities.

Narrative Therapy

Narrative Therapy helps patients to see themselves apart from their problems, to give them enough distance from the topic to understand how it can harm them. This can help give patients a new perspective, one that can help them change their thought patterns and beliefs.

For adults who were parented as children, this can help untangle their acute sense of responsibility towards others and invest too much in their caregiver identity until they neglect their own needs.

Family therapy

Since parentification is a problem that arises from the lack of adequate boundaries within the family, Family therapy can help break unhealthy patterns within a family unit and determine what healthy boundaries should look like.

Couples therapy

Adults who were parentified as children often have a hard time building healthy relationships of their own. Couples therapy can address these issues by helping set healthy boundaries within a relationship and improving communication.

Parentification forces children to grow up too quickly in ways that are stressful and unhealthy. Difficult as the long-term effects may be, parentification doesn’t need to define a person. Instead, with appropriate recognition of what happened and the right therapy, this is a cycle that can be broken.