When it comes to public speaking, there is some advice we keep hearing: Know your audience. Come prepared. Make eye contact.
OK, great, but for various reasons, not everyone can make eye contact while addressing a group or having a one-on-one conversation. And given that we’ve spent the past year in our homes, interacting with people through our computer screens, even those who previously enjoyed eye contact may take a minute to get used to it.
But what if you’re talking to someone who isn’t making eye contact? Should you prevail and keep looking them in the eye or follow their example and look elsewhere? in the a recent article in the Huffington PostCaroline Bologna spoke to communication experts to find out how to navigate a difficult eye contact situation.
Tips for speaking to someone who does not make eye contact
Before we get into the details, let’s take a moment to acknowledge that not all cultures have the same rules and standards when it comes to eye contact.
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“We value eye contact, especially in American culture,” said psychotherapist Annette Nunez Huffington Post. And because it’s not always possible to research a person and their background before talking to them, when in doubt, follow their lead.
More tips for talking to someone who doesn’t make eye contact discussed in Bologna’s article lock in:
- Don’t take it personally if someone you speak to does not make eye contact with you.
- Approach the conversation with kindness and empathy.
- Adjust the other person’s style of conversation (including their eye contact or a lack of it).
- Instead of sitting face to face, change the attitude and / or position of the conversation, e.g. Take a walk or look at the same document.
- Be aware if you are (and are not) monopolizing the conversation.
Basically, be patient and kind and roll along.
