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Pessimism gets a bad rap, but in reality the negative outlook can serve some important functions. This includes everything from helps us deal with angerto start a new relationship with realistic expectationsto set us up reach our goals. And according to performance experts Steven Kotler-Author of The art of the impossible and founder and managing director of Flow Research Collective– As we get older, we become more pessimistic.

In a recent discussion on the Mindbodygreen PodcastKotler explains why this isn’t always bad, noting that our increasing pessimism as we age is more of a gradual shift from a “goal mindset” to a “fear mindset”.

“Everything we see and encounter is really shaped by two things: our fears or our goals,” he said says in the podcast. Here’s why this happens and how we can control our age-related pessimism.

Why do we become more pessimistic as we age?

There’s a reason most people move from a goal mindset to a fear mindset. Kotler explains. This is because as we age, the stakes increase for any decision we have to make – be it because we have to consider a partner, family commitments, or a career. As a result, safety can be more important than setting or achieving goals.

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There is Research to support thisThis shows that older adults are more risk averse than younger ones. That’s not a bad thing, of course, and Kotler notes that it makes sense because “the things that are important to you start to grow.” However, this isn’t the only result of mounting pessimism as you age: it can also lead you to a point where fear of failure will make you stop fully achieving life goals.

How to keep our pessimism in check as we get older

While it makes sense to make decisions based on the perceived, potential, or actual risk of something, Kotler sees this as a problem when it comes to a point where we no longer set goals at all. This can happen when someone reaches some or all of arbitrary social milestones, such as getting married, having a family, buying a house, and so on. Here is as Kotler puts it::

“We hit our early thresholds and stopped setting goals. As a result, the system is, “Well, when you run out of goals, I want to protect you and help you survive.”

Fortunately, there is a way around this: keep setting yourself long-term goals. Setting daily goals is a good idea, but to get a grip on that particular aspect of pessimism, Kotler says that make concrete and specific plans To help you achieve a realistic long-term goal, you can balance your need with security and ambition.

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Some people decided to use their extra time at home during the pandemic to brush up on skills that might make them more enticing to a potential employer. Others may have devoted their time to eating and watching TV. In either case, you may be interested in and highly qualified in the latest “Dream Job” competition $ 500 for eating pizza and watching Netflix shows. Here’s what to know.

What the role entails

The successful candidate will receive a free Netflix account, a budget for delivery of pizza and snacks, and a $ 500 paycheck. The position requires staying home to eat and then rate take-away pizza and watch and then rate three original Netflix shows from the list below::

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• Bridgerton
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• Bling Empire
• Night Stalker: The Hunt for a Serial Killer
• Cobra Kai
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• Virgin River
• The Umbrella Academy
• Ratchet
• Under deck
• Other (unlisted series you want to see)

Then you need to review the shows based on their following criteria:

• Stories and storylines
• Eligibility for “Netflix and Chill”
• Acting quality and cheesiness
• Satisfaction of the consequences and the end of the series

They also rate the pizza based on the following criteria:

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• Basic structure and taste
• Quality, taste and cheese quality of the ingredients
• Price-performance ratio

How to enter

You must be a resident of the United States or Canada and be at least 21 years old to participate in the competition. Then Fill out this registration form, including the section on why you are the right person for the role. (But the winner will also be chosen at random, so you don’t have to spend too much time on it.) The closing date for entries is Friday, February 12, 2021 at 11:59 PM EST. The winner will be announced on February 17th.

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The fine print

Just so you are aware: by entering this contest, you are opting for this promotion and agreeing to be bound by it these general terms and conditions. You also accept that Finder Media may use your data and pictures for promotional activities if you win. Good luck!