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The abandonment culture is such an important issue in my life, and this week’s abandonment culture victims include DaBaby, Reddit’s worst anti-feminists, and drunk plane passengers who play golf.

This Week in the Culture War: DaBaby dropped from summer festivals

DaBaby was MIA at the Lollapalooza festival in Chicago this week and was struck off his headlining spot in response to homophobic comments at a recent concert in Miami.

Apparently they were telling a crowd, “If you didn’t show up today with HIV, AIDS, or one of those deadly sexually transmitted diseases that will make you die in two or three weeks, put your cell phone light in the air,” and “Folks, if If you don’t suck a dick in the parking lot, stick your cell phone light in the air “is enough to cancel Lollapalooza, as well as the upcoming Governors Ball, Parklife, Day N Vegas, Austin City Limits and iHeartRadio Music festivals. Who knew Not DaBaby.

DaBaby still has a chance. According to Billboard, DaBaby’s management has promised that the rapper will make an apology video before his set, his DaBaby thing.

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Follow-up: Do not freeze and eat honey

Remember the innocent days of a week ago? When we were walking around carefree eating frozen honey? Well the golden age is over. So-called “medics” have spoiled the fun by pointing out that stuffing your face with honey might be a bad idea, especially for the third of us who are dietary fructose intolerant.

“Use [honey] It’s crazy to get a lot of followers and a lot of attention and have it in abundance, “said Kristin Kirkpatrick, a registered nutritionist at the Cleveland Clinic ABC. “I don’t see much risk in the short term for someone with this fructose malabsorption other than what they will experience, which is terrible diarrhea, stomach pain and the like.”

Hey registered nutritionist Kristin Kirkpatrick: You are not my boss. I will continue to eat honey per liter and condemn the consequences. (I’ll spare you the details of my frequent, violent toilet visits.)

In Music This Week: Billie Eilish Releases New Video

Nineteen year old superstar Billie Eilish released an instant classic this week. “Happier than ever” builds from a minimalist 1920s-style opening to a raw, screaming anthem of defiance and heartbreak. As many commenters have pointed out, it’s kind of a goosebumps-bait song that starts slowly and then claps. (That’s what kids say about music these days – that it “claps”.) Don’t trust me in the slack; listen to it for yourself. It could be an even better song than The Captain and Tenneile’s 1976 hit “Muskrat Love”.

This Week in Culture War 2: Reddit Bans MGTOW

The all-encompassing Reddit website has banned its “Men Going Their Own Way” subreddit. r / MGTOW hosted over 100,000 posters dedicated to the idea that men should distance themselves from women because feminism is bad. In other words, it was full of people you slowly withdraw from at cocktail parties.

“Reddit’s site-wide guidelines explicitly prohibit content that incites violence or hates based on identity or vulnerability,” said a Reddit spokesman. “The subreddit in question has been banned in accordance with these guidelines.”

It took only 10 years for Reddit to complain about the misogynist message board to take action and finally free its members to go their own way straight to another internet shithole.

Streaming this week: first look at Amazon’s Lord of the Rings franchise

If you’re dying to see a dramatization of Túrin Turambar’s exile to Doriath, all you have to do is wait until September 2022 for Amazon’s upcoming Lord of the Rings series. The series yet to be titled is based on Tolkien’s posthumously published Silmarillion (as opposed to his books that people actually read) and is set in the Second Age of Middle-earth, thousands of years before the events of The Hobbit and The Lord of the Rings.

“As Bilbo says, ‘I’m pretty much ready for another trip now,'” said executive producers JD Payne and Patrick McKay in a statement that eerily mimics the way people actually speak on earth. “Living and breathing in Middle-earth has been the adventure of a lifetime during these many months,” added the couple, presumably in perfect harmony. If you want to see the first image in the series, all you have to do is do it click here.

Viral video of the week: Drunk bully taped the chair of an airliner

Passenger Maxwell Wilkinson Berry made the internet famous for the worst of reasons this week. Berry, 22, took a flight from Philadelphia to Miami and got drunk, groped two flight attendants, hit a guy and yelled, “My parents have two million dollars.” Then it is Video went viral.

Berry, shockingly a golfing fraternity guy, was so out of control that the flight crew had to hold him there while the other passengers applauded. Frontier Airline staff then covered his mouth to keep the world from hearing how much money his grandfather had in mutual funds. Fortunately, a Passenger recorded the whole thingso you can enjoy it too.

After his release from prison, Berry replied with the The biggest tweets in Internet history: “This will forever be the most dehumanizing experience of my entire life. Lots of people laughed and made fun of me when I was mistreated by employees of a PROFESSIONAL airline. Just to value the cause, this has gone “viral” on the internet and will never go away. And, “Can someone say what the hell is funny about being taped to an airplane seat?” How much time do you have max

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Congratulations. You have reached the drinking stage where you can say with confidence that the Negroni is one of your favorite cocktails. The path to fully appreciating this most perfect drink was not always straightforward, but once addicted to bitter ambrosia, one could not get enough! They have ordered it in every place that had a dusty Campari bottle on the shelves and advertised it in all the myriad forms in which it was served – stirred; stirred up and then poured onto ice; shocked to the Tucci; and built on a rock in a glass (hopefully your now preferred format). Now you make it rain Negronis at homeRealizing that preparing your own is actually one of the few undisputed joys in life.

But sometimes something new beckons. Not because you question your admiration for the Negroni, but because you understand that the occasional detour sweetens the final arrival at home. (And because true love sets you free or something etc.) The very reasonable desire for something new and different is confirmation that you actually have a pulse.

If you are lucky you dare to go to the bar at the Attaboy, and if you are even more lucky, Pepper is sitting behind the bar that evening and when she asks you what you fancy, lean in and say – embarrassed, but with some glee – “A Negroni but like that, not a Negroni, you know?” She nods and you know you are in good hands. When she reappears, she pushes you the most beautiful and inviting coupé: “It’s a Gloria.” You take a sip and your eyes widen as you look gratefully at Pepper. Risk was rewarded.

The Gloria cocktail is often referred to as the love child of the Negroni and the Martini, but she’s also very much her own person, okay? I think she could be a Libra. The point is that it’s delicious and very, very pretty, with a translucent red glow that is reminiscent of a rare ruby. Her story of origin is pretty interesting too, and one that sent me down a rabbit hole.

The Gloria cocktail is most commonly attributed to Trader Vic around 1947 and is included in one of his bartending manuals. The Cointreau website, but claims it was created by Marie Glory – a French silent film actress with a taste for aperitifs – for a cocktail competition in 1929. I couldn’t find anything else that specifically corroborates this claim, but I did find it a photo of Marie Glory at a cocktail party she threw, and apparently she is presented on the posters for Campari’s advertising campaign in the 1930s. The intrigue continues! I think this mysterious atmosphere is perfectly appropriate for Gloria.

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To get to know them you will need:

• 1 ½ ounce gin (dry, London)
• ½ ounce of Campari
• ½ ounce of dry vermouth
• ½ ounce of Cointreau
• Lemon spiral for garnish

This is a stirred up cocktail, and there is no greater injustice in the world of libations than a stirred up cocktail that is not cold enough or overly diluted, or worst of all, both. It is important that both your coupé and your mixing glass are as chilled as possible and that you have plenty of fresh dry ice to work with – ideally in different sizes.

First pour the ingredients into the chilled mixing glass (you don’t need anything special, a Boston glass or something similar will do), then fill up with broken ice, larger pieces first and smaller pieces last. Stir gently, holding the back of your bar spoon against the glass, and adding ice if needed. The wetter the ice, the less time you have, so keep that in mind. In general, you’ll want to stir until the mixing glass is frozen again, about 30 seconds. After stirring sufficiently, take the coup out of the freezer (not a moment earlier) and strain into the glass. Press the lemon zest over the glass and garnish.

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If you’re lucky enough to live somewhere with a nice lawn, landscape, or garden, you likely have your own approach to maintenance – and for some, that includes the use of pesticides. And if you and your neighbors disagree about spraying, tension can build up. But since a pesticide advocate is releasing chemicals into the neighborhood and the environment, it is considerate to let neighbors know what, where, and when they are spraying.

In an article on BobVila.com, Mark Wolfe gives some tips and strategies for (civil) discussions with your neighbors about pesticide use and how to deal with disagreements. Here’s what you should know.

How your neighbor’s pesticide use could affect you and your property

A quick note before we get into the details: this is not about discussing pesticide use in residential or commercial areas – this is a topic for another day. Here we focus on effectively communicating with your neighbors about their spraying habits, starting with how pesticide use could affect you and your property.

According to Wolfe, one concern is overspray. Also known as spray drift, it usually occurs when a liquid or dust treatment is applied to a lawn or area of ​​vegetation on a windy day so that it can reach areas outside the person’s property line. If you notice an area along or near the boundary between your garden and your neighbor’s where the plants are damaged or dead, it is a sign of overspray and something to discuss with your neighbor.

Here’s how to talk to your neighbor about pesticide use

As Wolfe points out, tensions can arise between neighbors who have different approaches to pesticides, but talking thoughtfully about it can help defuse the situation. Here are some of the most important topics to bring up:

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What is being sprayed

If you’re the one doing the spraying (or hiring someone else to do the job), let your neighbors know what chemicals you’re using. If you’re on the other side of this equation, you can ask your neighbors (or the professionals they hire) what pesticides, herbicides, and / or insecticides they are using.

Then Wolfe suggests looking for the substances used to see if they pose a risk to humans or the environment. You should also consider having pets that spend time outdoors. If there is something that worries you, do your research and present it to your neighbor as they may not be aware of the implications. (But if you do, don’t be passively aggressive or an asshole.) Ideally, you’d compromise on what gets injected.

When are the pesticides sprayed?

Another way to deal with some situations is to ask your neighbor (or the people he hires) when they would like to spray. That way, you’ll have an early warning and can plan to be outside or stay indoors that day to avoid the chemicals and any possible odor, explains Wolfe.

Whatever side you are on, Wolfe says explaining your position to your neighbor can help. There are all sorts of reasons why people choose to use or not use pesticides and it is a good idea to listen to them.

Keep the communication going

In all likelihood, this won’t be a one-and-done chat. If you check in with your neighbor regularly (and reasonably), you can nip any new problems in the bud and talk about what works and what doesn’t. And as Wolfe explains, sometimes you have to agree to disagree. Legal action may be required in some cases, but Wolfe recommends using this as a last resort.

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Doing business with a family member may seem like a great idea on the surface. After all, blood is thicker than water and so on. But no matter how great your family relationship is, you are far more likely to argue with a family member than with a traditional business partner – and the effects of these battles can extend beyond the professional into the private.

However, if you take the plunge, here are some tips to avoid conflict (and ruin your relationship) when doing business with the family.

Acknowledge that families can be difficult to do business with

You grew up with your siblings or you know your cousins ​​very well. They know what’s causing them, how likely they are to get dirty in a fight, and who of you should be managing the books and who should be doing customer service. Hell, you’ve been preparing all your life to deal with this person professionally! Use what you already know about each other – both good and bad – to guide your actions professionally and personally.

“Since we’re a family – and a very close family – our ideas sometimes collide,” said Angela Nardello, owner of bars in New York City with her brother. The two used to work under their father, but after his recent death the business fell to the siblings. “There were often little discussions about something as simple as the color of the chalk used to write a sign, whether a new menu item should be served with fries or onion rings, or how many employees should be at a party. My father had a very special way of doing things. It was a bit more old school. “

Nardello is showing the right amount of attention here, so be careful. She knew her father and brother well and knew what they agreed on and what they disagreed about. Don’t be surprised if your relative slash business partner shares a like or dislike that you already knew they had. You won’t get ahead in business if you don’t deal realistically with one another.

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Michael and Zak Zakar are 28-year-old twins who wrote together Pray the gays away (and the accompanying off-Broadway production) and How to be damn happy. Zak was the one who answered questions about what it was like to work together and write together, “Do you know how they say you are your own worst critic? This person obviously did not have a twin brother. “

In essence, you will disagree. A lot. Prepare for it, then get used to it.

Say goodbye to “Off Hours”

If your family is made up of colleagues, time at home becomes time at work – working with the family means a permanent fusion of personal and professional life.

“The only major downside is that work comes home with you,” said Nardello. “It’s there when you go to bed, when you wake up, on vacation … It’s non-stop.”

Do your best to keep the business idea where it belongs (in the store, not at the dining table), but also know that everyone involved is human and that emotions take us everywhere.

Be the bigger person if you can

Nardello remembered arguing with her family over the color of the chalk used as a sign, but the Zakar twins went so far as to argue over a single word.

“It can be overwhelming to be able to say something to your work partner at times,” said Zakar. “We were in the middle of writing and fighting over the word ‘regulate’ for an hour because I thought it sounded stupid and he loved it. We are perfectionists at heart, so it is sometimes difficult to bite our tongues. “

At some point, you may have to bite your tongue anyway, no matter how hard it is. Remember that the success of your business depends not only on your ability to work together, but also on a number of family dynamics. Don’t blow up your family over a word or an onion ring! You wouldn’t be in the business if you didn’t have a surefire money-making plan. So focus on the strength of your product and do whatever you can to make it successful – including the Bigger Person.

“Nothing is permanent,” added Zakar. “In many of the battles we’ve gotten into, we’ve argued over ideas. Now we talk to each other respectfully. It only took 11 years. Communication is the key! “

After all, you know it could be great too

Sure, you will have differences of opinion that a normal business partner would not have given your close relationship with the other person, but that relationship will be strengthened as well as destroyed.

“As much as we fight – and we fight – the end product is always better than we imagined because we can talk about our ideas as silly or seriously as we want,” said Zakar. “It’s like having a different pair of eyes that think the same way as you do.”

And Nardello said, “I know a lot of people say that working for the family is the biggest mistake, but I think it was the best decision I’ve ever made. I think it brought me a lot closer to my father and brother, especially when it came to my father. Like most fathers, he would work a lot. When I started working for my father it brought us closer together and I really got to know him better as a person. Now that my dad has died, I am so grateful that I worked with him because the memories and things he taught me are the crazy things he did, even the fun arguments we had Things that I have in my heart forever. “

Sometimes you may find it difficult to gain a foothold and wish to work with someone who your relationship with is purely professional, but once you’ve overcome a few family problems, celebrating your success with someone can feel great too. that you love